Knowing When the Party is Over

Tell me Lies Finale Review (SPOILERS)

The quickest way to clear a bar is to turn the lights on. It’s one of the more jarring moments that happens on a night out. Being able to see the stickiness of the floor and the red tint in everyone’s eyes makes the reality of the situation very clear.


Meaghan Oppenheimer, screenwriter for “Tell Me Lies” managed to perfectly wrap up the three seasons of the television series without making it feel like a sad bender that should have ended hours ago.
“Hate-watching” was a favorite hobby I shared with my college roommate. Our senior year we poured a glass of wine and turned on Tell Me Lies excited to make fun of a cringey, poorly written Gen Z targeted TV show. To our surprise, we binged the entire first season within 48 hours and continued to watch the rest of the franchise as it came out over the next three years. We were both invested. I even purchased and read the book immediately after watching. The first time I was cranky about the series was on Feb. 16 after I learned the season 3 finale was coinciding as the series finale. I spent the next day complaining that there was no way one episode would properly wrap the series. It was all I could think about. I found myself knee-deep in negative Reddit commentary and fully ready to have a sour night after watching the official last episode. However, I was not prepared to fully eat my own words.


My chin sunk to my chest when the disclaimer for the episode appeared. I felt like that was immediate validation for every doubt I had about a morbid ending. This season’s ‘feel-good’ storyline was the unexpected love story that played out between Bree and Wrigley.  I was dreading seeing how it fell apart. I could handle the constant disappointment of Evan, Lucy and Pippa’s decisions. But I have such a soft spot for Bree. After Evan took her mom out for drinks, there was little she could do in that relationship that would make me think differently of her. Thankfully, seeing her and Wrigley reconnect in the first seconds of the episode gave me immediate regret for my negative attitude throughout the day.


While it’s never difficult for media to make me cry, I will note that this episode made me tear up two separate times. In my opinion, Oliver and Marianne are in a tight race with Stephen for the sickest characters on this show. Watching Bree take up all the space in that room trying to fight for herself broke my heart. This moment was great foreshadowing for how there would be no accountability for the sickest acts some characters committed.


My second round of tears came as Lucy’s hopelessness laid across her dorm room bed. It was impossible for me to hate Lucy because she hated herself enough for everyone around her. It was always clear her bad decisions stemmed from a dark self-perception and an obsession with her version of justice being served. Characters as polarizing as Lucy take someone like Grace Van Patten portraying them. This episode alone is enough proof that her career is far from over.


After three seasons of stress-inducing decisions and situations, I didn’t mind the silliness behind the wedding reception scene. Evan slamming into his wedding cake with Britney Spears playing in the background was pretty satisfying to watch. This specific moment is what I felt perfectly represented the art of knowing when to call it a night. It’s 3 a.m., you can see how many drinks everyone has had in the way their eyes hang, the bartenders are packing up their bottles and then Stephen Demarco grabs the microphone. You can either be Pippa and Diana, who couldn’t leave the venue fast enough. Or you could be Lucy and find yourself stranded in last night’s clothes because you decided to leave the party with your sociopath of an ex-boyfriend. Oppenheimer decided to be Pippa and Diana. Get out while the intensity is still happening and wake up with no regrets.


Many viewers were unhappy that Stephen made it through the series without facing any true consequences. As frustrating as it is, I honestly appreciated that about the ending. That’s unfortunately pretty realistic. It can be really difficult to punish people who don’t feel remorse. There was something full circle in the way Stephen brought most of the lies and trauma into this friend group, and then he was the one to use them for the group’s demise. As much as it seems like Stephen won, everyone else did too. He finally left and took the knot of lies these relationships had formed with him. There was a sense of freedom in Pippa and Diana’s exit, Bree and Wrigley’s eye contact, and the hysterical laugh Lucy released after Stephen reintroduced her to their never-ending cycle. Lying is what held this college friend group together, so it only makes sense that the show ends after everything comes to surface.


Not only do I think Oppenheimer did herself, the audience and the reputation of Tell Me Lies a favor by wrapping up the franchise; but I also think Van Patten and Jackson White’s careers will be forever thankful. Many actors find themselves stuck in a specific role because the series didn’t know when to say goodbye. It has nothing with the person’s capabilities; the public just becomes unable to separate the role from the person.  If you’re mourning the loss of Baird’s most dysfunctional friend group, go fall in love with the actors who portrayed them. I have a feeling that Tell Me lies won’t be the last we see of them. 

Dear Santa… Sincerely, a grown-up girl with a Christmas list

How to use the four-gift rule to create your Christmas wishlist!

Growing up, I was told Santa would continue stopping by my house until I was married with children. Therefore, I believe it’s completely acceptable for me to sit down and write out my Christmas list as a single, childless, 24-year old adult.

It’s awkward sending anyone a wishlist, especially when you are past the age where it’s appropriate. However, it’s more painful being on the opposite side and having no idea what to buy someone. Truthfully, I was not born with gift-giving abilities, but I am amazing at receiving them.

My list is separated by the Four-Gift Rule with a couple of options in each section. Whether you are buying or receiving, the Four-Gift Rule helps make holiday shopping more affordable, thoughtful and practical.

Something you want..

I can typically smell Santa’s arrival before I can see it. Candles, body lotion, perfume and other scent inducing products always find their way on my Christmas list. Whether you are buying for yourself or someone else this year, Ruby + Begonia is the way to go. With all of the health issues being caused by candles, it’s crucial to be picky on where you’re buying from. It’s also important to keep small business in mind during the holiday season, and this small female-owned business is based in my hometown!

This year, my kitchen has gotten more use than ever before. I have learned that the cuter my kitchen is, the more likely I am to keep practicing my cooking and baking skills. Kitchen-gadgets are typically an easy way to get any adult excited. New cutting boards, metal measuring cups, loaf pans and glass pantry storage are always being accepted in my apartment. This gift is so easy to personalize as well. There are several ways to incorporate a recipe or attach something homemade.

Something you need..

“Need” is a tricky word. Considering my skin problems, I classify face wash and pimple patches as necessities. I am constantly breaking out, and the Fitish Facial Cleanser is the only face wash that shows results on my skin. This brand is a family-favorite for my mom and I. We are frequent customers for multiple Fitish products, including the Tone Down Spray.

Another skin care “need” is the the panoxyol skin patches. These pair perfectly with my face wash request. I’m ordering a pack of these every couple of weeks, and can never get enough. If this has been the year of skin issues for you, these are a perfect stocking stuffer. I even have friends who keep these on stand-by for surprise pimples.

Something to wear..

Over the last year, I have learned to appreciate a “do-nothing” weekend. I’ll never be above an oversized T-shirt and pajama shorts, however there is something more productive about wearing a matching lounge set. The best part about this request is there is little room for error. Stores like Target, Gap and Aerie have plenty of affordable options and are typically just solid colored, so there’s no chance you buy or receive something that doesn’t work.

To ‘wear’ something is not limited to clothes. I have a perfume request that I ask for every year — Dior Hypnotic poison. I will admit, this scent is unique and may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but if you prefer vanilla scents with an eccentric twist I highly recommend.

Something to read..

My new hobby I’m working to blossom is crocheting. One of my goals with learning a new skill is to spend time away from all of the screens in my house. Instead of using online guides or videos I’m hoping to practice with a book for a media break. If you’re not in a phase where you are reading, think of a hobby or skill that you want to grow in.

Lastly, my New Year’s resolution is to finish the Bible in one year. After several recommendations, I’ve decided to ask for ‘The Bible Recap’ book to follow along with the podcast by Tara-Leigh.

Something that’s special….

Receiving gifts is an exciting part of the holidays, however it’s important to maintain the meaning of Christmas. If you are creating a wishlist or expecting gifts this month, I highly recommending giving in a way that feels special to you. Unfortunately, Santa isn’t able to visit everyone’s house. Angel trees are an amazing way to help the spirit of Santa into someone’s home. Local churches, schools and other businesses are a great resource to reach out to if you are interested.

For those of you on the nice list, I hope you were able to pull inspiration from my letter to Santa. But even if you were naughty, you’ll still find “something to read” on heybaibai each week.

A little bit of my life, just for you

Introducing, heybaibai!

When I was four years old, I dressed up as Jessica Simpson for my preschool show-and-tell.

While everyone else was bringing their favorite stuffed animals or action figures, I stood in front of the classroom wearing a hot pink scarf and a cut-out picture from People Magazine.

Before I could read, I was flipping through each magazine that entered my house. My mom would gift me her hand-me-downs and I even started my own collection of J-14 and Tiger Beat editions. It was a daily activity for me to rotate through each of them.

I can’t say much changed as I was growing up. However, instead of solely reading magazines, I fell in love with the voice that brings them to life. Writing.

Today, I’m 24 working as a content editor in Dallas, Texas. In the corner of my apartment, my collection of torn-up J-14 magazines sit in a pile waiting to be picked up. I figured it’s only right to use quizzes from one of them as a way to introduce myself in my first blog post.

The first magazine I picked up was the “Best of 2014” edition of J-14. On the cover, Ariana Grande is wearing black sequin cat ears paired with her signature winged eyeliner, and next to her is One Direction promoting their album, Four. Therefore, I knew this magazine was going to give me everything I need.

Seconds after opening the magazine I realized that I am still a 13-year-old girl at heart. The opening question asked “Your friends say that Justin Bieber is old news, but you still love him. You:” and I had to laugh. This magazine was released 11 years ago for 14 year-olds, and loving Justin Bieber is still a major part of my personality. And to answer J-14’s question, I would “Continue fan-girling — who cares?”

Two texts I’ve gotten in the last year about my love for Justin Bieber.

Thanks to the results of my second quiz, I have a new way to describe myself. A part-time diva. I don’t know if there is a better way to explain my Type B personality combined with my love for pink and all things girly. I also learned that the celebrity family I belong in is the Kardashians, which I have mixed feelings about. However, when I was 13 I would have cheated the quiz to get this answer.

I wrapped up my trip down memory lane by looking at my horoscope. As an Aries, my “lucky days” listed are Nov. 17 and 21. Considering the day I was reading this magazine was Nov. 17, 2025 I was a little freaked out. So I decided to put my trust in J-14 and publish this post on Nov. 21, but unfortunately I’m a day late (as usual) so I’m going to have to test fate and hope for the best.

Editorial media has worked as an outlet and inspiration for me since I can remember. My goal for this blog is to treat life as my own magazine. I’m not sure how that looks, but I know writing and storytelling is my favorite way to reconnect with myself and others. I’m excited to share my thoughts on pop culture, traveling, fashion or whatever else I’m hyper fixating on in the moment.

In my most overwhelmed states, I’ve always come back to the little girl that flipped through magazines and put words on paper to decompress. I’m excited to use my blog as a way to continue that part of myself.

With Love,